As we go through our healing, we begin to feel our best. We begin to feel so good, in fact, that we want others to experience exactly what we have been able to do for ourselves. After all, everyone wants to feel good, right? We start taking it upon ourselves to try to get others to do the work that we have done. Healing. Seeing life in a more positive light. Working on the past for a better future. We can’t do this though.
It isn’t our place to get others to do their healing. They may not be ready. They may not be capable. It may even be possible that they don’t want to heal. There is nothing that either of us can do to change either one of those variables. In that though, we have to look out for ourselves. If it bothers us that others are not doing their healing, then it may be possible that we need to look to ourselves and set boundaries to avoid being triggered.
Yes, our healing journeys are amazing, but everyone has to reach this point for themselves. The point of wanting to take on a more challenging life to work on themselves for the better. We can’t heal others. In the same way that others can push us to change things that we are not capable of or willing to change at this very moment, we can’t push others to be more “like us.”
Trying to do this very well could cause further damage to relationships that are already strained. If not that, then it could cause resentment of the self and also resentment of the other person. People are as they are and people are as they are going to be. Those individuals are the only ones who can change that. Just as you were the one who chose to set out on your healing journey.
Don’t stress yourself over trying to get others to heal or to “do better.” We each have choices to make, and one that you may have to make for yourself is to get comfortable with being around those who are unhealed and to remember your why in all of this. It was never about anyone else.
